Homemaker Wants to Return to Work


D.S. writes:
I’m a 33-year-old mother of 5 ages 11-17. I have been a wife and mother for 18 years.
My husband has recently left us and I cannot find a job. They all say “no experience
no job.” I have been babysitting to pay the bills. People keep telling me to go back to
school. My problem with that is who pays the bills and puts food on the table while
I’m in school? Plus we live in a rural area so I would have to travel at least an hour
one-way. I have no idea what to do. I’m lost! Do you have a suggestion for me?



The Career Doctor responds:
You have a lot of issues swirling around you and the best thing you can do is find a
way to step back from it all and make some hard decisions about what is best for
you and your family. Perhaps the best thing is for you to get a job until your family
gets on its feet; perhaps the best thing is for you to do is find a career direction and
try to find a job in that field; or perhaps the best thing for you is to go to college.
There is no question that you will lead a better life — not just in terms of compensation
but in quality of life — if you are able to find a way to attend and graduate from college.
However getting that college degree may be a goal you don’t start until next year — or
later. If it is a goal for you and you are unable to fulfill it now please don’t give up on it.
I suggest you consider some career counseling. Most states and local governments
have various job programs and job/career centers where you should be able to get some
quality advice and direction. You may also find sources of training for jobs you can apply to now.
Regardless of your decision you’re facing some period of hard work and possibly struggling.
You may need training you may need to volunteer to get experience you may need to
convince an employer to take a chance on you…but you’re going to need to have determination.
Stay focused on your short-term and long-term goals and you should be well on your
way to providing for your family — and for yourself.
If college is one of your options — now or in the future — I highly recommend you take a
look at the many resources in the
College Planning Resources
section of Quintessential Careers.

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D.S. writes:
I’m a 33-year-old mother of 5 ages 11-17. I have been a wife and mother for 18 years.
My husband has recently left us and I cannot find a job. They all say “no experience
no job.” I have been babysitting to pay the bills. People keep telling me to go back to
school. My problem with that is who pays the bills and puts food on the table while
I’m in school? Plus we live in a rural area so I would have to travel at least an hour
one-way. I have no idea what to do. I’m lost! Do you have a suggestion for me?



The Career Doctor responds:
You have a lot of issues swirling around you and the best thing you can do is find a
way to step back from it all and make some hard decisions about what is best for
you and your family. Perhaps the best thing is for you to get a job until your family
gets on its feet; perhaps the best thing is for you to do is find a career direction and
try to find a job in that field; or perhaps the best thing for you is to go to college.
There is no question that you will lead a better life — not just in terms of compensation
but in quality of life — if you are able to find a way to attend and graduate from college.
However getting that college degree may be a goal you don’t start until next year — or
later. If it is a goal for you and you are unable to fulfill it now please don’t give up on it.
I suggest you consider some career counseling. Most states and local governments
have various job programs and job/career centers where you should be able to get some
quality advice and direction. You may also find sources of training for jobs you can apply to now.
Regardless of your decision you’re facing some period of hard work and possibly struggling.
You may need training you may need to volunteer to get experience you may need to
convince an employer to take a chance on you…but you’re going to need to have determination.
Stay focused on your short-term and long-term goals and you should be well on your
way to providing for your family — and for yourself.
If college is one of your options — now or in the future — I highly recommend you take a
look at the many resources in the
College Planning Resources
section of Quintessential Careers.