by Rhoberta Shaler Ph.D.
Goal setting seems to be a perennially hot topic! Could it be that you hear and read about it so often because its a subject that is easy to know about and difficult to practice?
It would be very surprising to find an adult in the work force who has not heard about goal setting. A Harvard study of its graduates over 30 years found that only a small percentage (3 pecent) of them actually wrote down their goals — and these were the most successful!
You can be certain that every one of those students had repeatedly heard the value of goal setting. Yet only 3 percent actually wrote down their goals consistently. Imagine what you can do if you both write down your goals and then focus on them every day every week until they are accomplished!
What is it the causes the “New Year’s Resolution Syndrome?” You probably know the one. People make resolutions work hard at them for a few weeks maybe even a few months and then forget them. Next year they make the same New Year’s Resolutions. It is a self-defeating and self-sabotaging syndrome. So why do so many people do it?
They may be making goals that are too global too extensive too unrealistic for the time frame body type or current finances. That is not to say that they are not worthy goals. They need to be broken apart into smaller more specific attainable pieces. The elephant analogy is still the best one I know of to illustrate good goal setting. You probably know it. “How do you eat an elephant? One spoonful at a time.” So it is with goals. Make spoon size goals and accomplish them. One you’ve mastered those get a bigger spoon!
You may have too many people in your life who consciously or subconsciously are unwilling or unable to support you to reach your goals. Everyone has a “personal tribe” their friends families colleagues. You have created agreement among your tribe members that you are a certain way or you do certain things. They are comfortable with you as long as you are and do those things. They may even be enthusiastic about your desire to change something or accomplish something new. Just know that as you change and accomplish they may not like it. They may even go so far as to put you down in small ways or make light of your accomplishments. Do you know why? It is usually because your changes remind them on some levels that they could be doing it too…and they aren’t!
Surround yourself with people who want you to have what you want for yourself. Be mutually supportive and you’ll all achieve your highest goals.
You may have filled your schedule with so many things that there is little room for your goals to grow. We must be careful not to confuse busyness with progress. Be selective about how you use your time and what you focus on. Success often comes when you know what to leave out rather than what to include in your life. Notice too how much time you spend on trivia. It has a nasty way of taking your attention from what you say you want to focus on doesn’t it? Have you ever just “had” to clean your office before you could begin your project? Then you know how this works!
Goal setting is like the pig and chicken who were out for a walk in town early one morning. The chicken became really excited when she saw a sign that said “Ham & Eggs $2.99.” She said to the pig “Look we’ve got double billing again.” The pig grunted and said “That’s all right for you to say. For you it’s all in a day’s work. For me it’s total commitment.” Goal setting is all in a day’s work. Goal achievement is total commitment.
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Rhoberta Shaler Ph.D. is a motivational keynote speaker corporate team builder and executive coach from San Diego CA. She is the creator of The Consociate Way’: Promoting Performance & Peace in Your Workplace. Register today for Rhoberta’s new Teleseminar and Coaching program: GOAL GETTING: MOVING FROM RESOLUTIONS TO RESULTS – a 12 week program to help you stick to your path and achieve success! Click on “Teleseminars” at her Website. Call her at SPEAKING ABOUT WORK 1.877.728.6464 or email at RS@SpeakingAboutWork.com. Visit: SpeakingAboutWork.com for further information and free ezines.
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